Advice on your fiances sister being rude and opinionated

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At the very least they need anger management and perhaps medication. Just because they're family doesn't mean everyone is supposed to tolerate their obnoxious attitudes and outbursts and suck it up.

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Thanks. I usually would get annoyed with his older sister because she would try to push her views on us but I wouldn't pay attention to what the younger sister said most of the time because I thought she was mentally challenged. I didn't think she could help being rude and extremely loud. She would have sudden outbursts of anger, scream to communicate and start fights with the other siblings over small things. Once she made fun of our dog for being small (her dog is very large), she kept laughing at our dog but she was very angry when talking about him, it was really odd. The mother would tell everyone "she's having a bad day today, so be careful what you say since anything could upset her". I also heard that she would lock herself in her room for a week and refuse to talk to anyone... So after everything I was under the impression that she was mentally challenged or had some sort of disability (which is fine). One night after talking to my fiance about how rude his older sister was to me, he asked why I never got upset with his younger sister because she is far worse. I said "because I don't think she can help it". My fiance got really upset and said "you think she is retarded? Or something, because she's not she is really smart and she has gone to college and... I just said sorry and I didn't say anything else.

I feel really bad, although I still think something is wrong with her and the family doesn't want to face it. I know a lot of people who have disabilities and have still gone to college and excelled in certain areas. My question is how can I let my fiance know that I feel horrible about this? I feel like his sudden reaction and anger was because maybe other people have also had that impression of his sister?

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I think the whole family has made excuses for bad behavior all the way around. It's unrealistic of your fiance to expect you to know what the background information is if no one (especially your fiance!) told you. Stop feeling bad about making assumptions on what little you knew. I'd start rethinking marrying into this family.

If you still think your fiance is worth putting up with the sisters, try to limit your time with them. Tell him he can visit them without you. Also, be prepared for a nightmare wedding because I can guarantee you those sisters will find a way to ruin it for you, and the mother will do nothing to stop it.

Commented by HarleyGirl

I think it can be expected for family members to get angry if someone calls their daughter or sister mentally retarded. It really is an insult. I have a brother who is getting a divorce. His wife never loved him. She was very disrespectful to him and our family. We all would have been better off if she did not marry into our family. If you do not really love your fiance or want to associate with his family, then please reconsider marrying him.

By the way, Elvis Presley used to lock himself in his room with his wife for weeks. It was his way to escape from the world for awhile. Do you think Elvis was mentally retarded?

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