Advice if your parents dont like your boyfriends tattoos

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Parents do have a right to be protective of their children even if the children feel they are adult enough to make up their own minds. Parents often fear the unknown and nose rings or rings anywhere and tattoos often give them the wrong impression of that person. However, one should never judge a book by it's cover. If your boyfriend is respectful of you, loves you, has good manners and treats you well then sit down with your parents and calmly ask if they would give him a chance and let you ask him over for dinner. Your parents may be very surprised at what a nice fellow he is. Make it plain to your parents that you aren't going to follow his lead by getting nose rings; other rings on other parts of the body or tattoos like he is. Often girls will get a small tattoo somewhere, but many parents wouldn't want to look at their son or daughter covered in them.

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Consider that they may be right in thinking that socially obnoxious tattoos frequently indicate socially obnoxious personalities. Stop thinking of your parents as people who don't know anything. They know more about life than teens do (or think they do). Take into consideration WHY they don't like the tattoo. WHAT is the tattoo. If it is something like a huge "Born To Raise Hell" slogan or Nazi symbol, they might just be right in not liking it and therefore not liking him. One thing is for sure. If they don't like his tattoos when they meet him, they aren't going to like him any better when he becomes their son-in-law and you will have a difficult relationship with them until he divorces you which will he probably will if he really was "Born To Raise Hell."

The advice about making it plain to your parents that you are not going to follow his lead is absurd. After all, no "nice fellow" like the advice above fantasizes about, is going to have a tattoo that is indicative of a person who has rejected contemporary societal norms? You're just fooling yourself and your parents will see through it. If you like his tattoos, you will probably get one (or more) yourself one day, because you probably like tattoos already and want to be like your boyfriend and fit in with him and his ways.

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