Advice if in your 50s look young but told you are old

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Some people are jerks. You're lucky to look young. Maybe they are jealous. Live it up baby!

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I am a very young looking woman in my 50's. I have a youthful face without sags, bags, and wrinkles. From time to time, a stranger on the street will say something to me to tell me that I am old. It seems as if what they really want to say is that I am really old!!! Today a strange man said to me "you don't see too many old people around here." I said "what are you talking about?" He told me that I have to be his age or older. I did not even know this man! Why is he questioning me about my age? It is like they are trying to tell me that even though I may look young, that I don't fool them. Could this be the case and, if so, why are they even bothering me? Can anyone tell me???

Commented by a contributor

Don't let people dictate who you are or how you feel. If you know you look young, just ignore the idiots of the world. Next time someone makes a comment like that, say, "I don't know how old you are, and you don't know how old I am, but obviously you feel like you're a senior citizen. Please don't put me in the same category." Then walk away.

Commented by HarleyGirl

I am in the same situation. I am 55 but I have always avoided the sun and I have oily skin, so I have no wrinkles. People always think I am much younger when they find out my age (though conversation or whatever). However, I've never had anyone accost me the way you have been spoken to, especially by a stranger.

This is not a flame, only a question. Could it be the way you dress? Even an older woman with a young face looks inappropriate in some clothing meant for a woman in her 30's, etc. It's the only reason I can come up with for why complete strangers would speak to you that way.

Commented by Rajav

He isn't trying to tell you you're old in the sense of a deliberate insult. That's a little paranoid. I think he is just hitting on you by bringing you into his own age group. Then again maybe you really do look old but are just fooling yourself.

Commented by RoibeardWA