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Requested in Parenting & Family by SunChaser
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Health issues arise when someone's spouse passes away.  The shock of either long-term illness or even sudden death can cause what is known as Post Traumatic Stress no matter how much the remaining spouse feels they are prepared for the death of a long-term ill spouse.  

Physical changes to the body is a fog-like state for up to a year or more and sometimes longer for some individuals depending on how close the relationship was and genetic make-up.  The griever may eat more or some less, some will suffer from insomnia while others sleep a great deal. nausea, digestive problems, aches and pains can follow along with the feeling of 'out of sorts' and not knowing where they fit in.  Panic spells can happen or some individuals who are grieving will shy away from their family and friends.  It is quite common for even family not to understand the griever who has had their spouse pass away and the old adage of 'you should be over grieving in a year' is, but a myth.  There is no time limit for grief even with grief counseling or perhaps medications.  

Next comes the shock that well meaning friends at the funeral who promised to be there if one needed anything is all talk and no action and slowly many friends (even long time friends) will dwindle down to a handful and get on with their own lives.  This leaves the person grieving feeling isolated and alone and it's difficult to go back to work or, if retired get on with life when you had planned your life around your spouse.  Grief simply takes time and as much support as one can get such as continued grief counseling, counting on family and choosing one or two loyal friends.  It is important to exercise whether it's a simple walk each day as it gets the serotonin in the brain activating making the person feel somewhat more relaxed.  Trying to eat well, drinking lots of water to hydrate the body and trying one's best to keep themselves as busy as possible.  This all comes in different stages and not necessarily in order as there is no such things as 5 or 6 symptoms of grieving as there are many more.

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