Advice if cousin and a friend are getting married on same day

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Who set the wedding date first? That's probably the one I'd choose.

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My cousin has become recently engaged to a guy she hasn't been dating very long, but I guess that's none of my business... that's fine. However, a wonderful mutual friend between my fiance and I also got engaged. Here's the problem: they are both getting married on the same day, and my fiance was asked to be one of the groomsmen. The main issue I'm worried about is I can't miss my cousin's wedding because my family will blacklist me forever, but my friend is very dear to me, and, like I said, my fiance is asked to be in the wedding. What do I do? Help!

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My husband and I had the same problem, with his cousin's and friend of 20 years having their wedding on the same day. Since they were in two different states, there was no way we could attend both, so we chose family. His friend understood. Your fiance will have to stand up for his friend, and if you're close to your cousin, you'll have to go to that wedding. Try to enjoy it, because you may see family you don't normally see. I had a blast at the family wedding, and I'm sorry we couldn't go to the other wedding, but sometimes you have to make hard choices.

Commented by HarleyGirl

Option 1) You go to your cousin's wedding solo. Your fiance goes to the friend's wedding solo.

2) You both go to your friend's wedding. You tell your cousin you're sorry but have a prior commitment. If your family blacklists you, they aren't worth it. No one should get that pissed about a wedding and no one should manipulate you into attending with threats.

Whatever you choose make sure to send gifts for both weddings.

Commented by Inah

I'd split up. I'd go to one wedding and send my fiance to the other.

Commented by marinemj

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